When to Leave a Relationship

If you’re thinking of leaving your relationship, it’s because you’re feeling lonely, hurt and hopeless about it ever getting better.

I still remember how terrible that felt and how much relief I felt thinking about escaping my marriage for those very reasons.

That pain was real!

The part that wasn’t so real was my fantasy that leaving the relationship was going to fix my problems and make me feel better.

The illusion, which I was completely convinced was the truth, was that my husband was the source of the problems that hurt me so much.

But the reality, I now know, was that most of my suffering stemmed from a lack of training and support in practicing the Six Intimacy Skills™, not because of a terrible, incorrigible husband.

Back then, I would have sworn that it was all his fault and that he was never going to change.

So my options were to leave or continue to suffer forever.

1. What Never Would Have Happened if I’d Left

But if I had ended my marriage back then, I would have missed out on the great marriage I have now, which would have been so tragic.

I also would have missed out on all the lessons on learning how to love and be loved, the confidence I gained and the dignity that was restored.

So I hate to see any woman give up on her marriage before she gets the Six Intimacy Skills and the Connection Framework to help her implement them.

2. What About Physical Abuse?

But what about abuse, you might be wondering. Shouldn’t you leave your relationship if you’re being abused?

You’re the expert on your own life, including making yourself and your children safe. Safety always comes first.

But what’s the best way to make yourself safe? Leaving may be a way.

But if you have kids or finances together, it’s not easy to make a clean break.

And now that I’ve had the honor of watching women who once had restraining orders against their husbands fix their marriages and feel safe with their husbands again, I see that practicing the Intimacy Skills can also be a way to make you and your children safe.

So it’s nice to know you have options, right?

3. These are Good Reasons To Stay Married

Even if you’re embarrassed about how you and your husband interact, if you want to stay and make your marriage last and thrive because of your kids or just because you want to, it’s nice to know that you’re not alone.

There’s a whole community of women who have been through all kinds of marital breakdowns standing for your marriage, for your greatness as a wife and woman.

And standing for your husband’s greatness too.

What we all have in common is that we believe in marriage, that it’s special, that it’s sacred, that it’s important.

There are lots of places you can go if you want permission to leave your marriage but not our campus.

We’re committed to reminding you why you married your husband, why you’re still married to him, and what your vision is for your family, even if your marriage feels the lowest it’s ever been.

It doesn’t have to stay that way. It can become everything you dreamed it would be.

Some people climb Mount Everest. Some run marathons or become great actors.

For me, the greatest achievement is to create a lasting, loving family even when that seems impossible.

It all depends on what you want. So what is your vision?

It would be an honor to stand for you too and get a front-row seat to your miracle!